JERSEY CITY, N.J. – In 2004, with his wife by his side, Jim McGreevey announced at the New Jersey statehouse, "My truth is that I am a gay American."
Facing allegations that he gave his male lover a lucrative state job, America's first openly gay governor ended his political career and abandoned his dreams of one day running for president. But he said that moment of coming out, a moment that catapulted him to national notoriety, was profoundly peaceful.
"It was just the most serene, wonderful feeling because, for the first time in my life, this is who I am," he remembered. “It was as true and as honest and the most authentic place as I’ve ever been in my life.”
Ten years later, the state's former top official, with degrees from Columbia, Georgetown, Harvard and the London School of Economics, spends much of his time in the working-class neighborhood of Jersey City where he grew up, and in a local jail, helping ex-offenders transition from prison to the world outside.
Following his resignation, McGreevey went through a very messy and public divorce, complete with dueling memoirs. Some in the gay community shunned him, accusing him of using his sexuality to distract from his alleged corruption.
"Only in New Jersey could people say that was used to cover political scandal," said McGreevey. "The scandal was I was being sued by this person I ought not to have had a relationship with, particularly considering the fact that I was a married man and this person had been on the government payroll, and I should not have hired him. In my mind, that's enough of a mess."
In its wake, McGreevey began a spiritual quest that led him to seminary school in the Episcopal Church. That's where he discovered his new calling.
“ [I was] shoulder-to-shoulder every morning, every lunch and a lot of dinners with people who had spent 15 years, 18 years at Sing Sing [Correctional Facility],” McGreevey said. “I’m like, these guys want the same thing that I want: He wants to work, he wants to live in a safe community, he wants to do better for his children. And so that really was transformative for me.”
Today, McGreevey runs Martin’s Place, a federal- and state-funded organization helping ex-offenders in Jersey City adjust to life outside prison. The organization says it has a 23 percent recidivism rate, far below the national average of 67 percent.
"I've always been for the outsider, for the underdog," McGreevey said. "I think maybe it's because I was gay."
A few blocks from where McGreevey was born and raised, we visit transitional housing that Martin's Place set up for 20 women. After welcoming the residents with hugs, he introduces us to Cassie, an ex-offender who he has mentored and represented in court.
"Cassie's a classic case," he said. "She would have been in prison, spending time in prison and instead she came here, went to cosmetology school, has a job, is on time and I'm so proud of her."
"Blame me!" McGreevey yells as Cassie races out the door to get to her job on time.
McGreevey was in his element, joking with the residents, who clearly admired him. It was obvious why he'd wanted to take us here, although he struggled to find the words. He finally settled on, "This is life."
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